Now, I’m not saying you have to choose between traveling and love. But sometimes, it just makes sense to choose one or the other.
When you travel for the sole reason of discovering the world and discovering yourself, you open yourself up to a new world you may not have experienced before. We can go through life feeling lost, even more confused in college, constantly getting in and out of bad relationships, and end up trying to find a soulmate on Tinder. Why do we allow ourselves to keep holding on to the wrong person? What is it that makes us change who we are for someone who would never change for us?
We don’t know ourselves
Some people never end up truly knowing who they are. Some people easily figure out who they are and what they want in life and relationships. For the rest of us, it can be a harrowing process. When we uncover the parts of ourselves we dislike the most, only then can we begin the process of rebuilding the person we want to be. I’m not saying it’s easy or fast. It takes a lot of alone time, a lot of reflection, and a lot of time with our own thoughts. Many people aren’t willing to sit through the pain, but those who do only emerge tougher.
We don’t know what we want
We can go through life with passions that come and go. Some things you enjoyed as a younger person, but you’ll find you enjoy other things more when you’re older. When we sit down and think about what we really want in life, in the present and in the future, we are less likely to let people or things interfere with our goals. Traveling can help with this (Really!).
When we feel lost and unsure of our life’s path, getting up and going into the unknown can surprisingly teach you about where you really want to be. When you push yourself out of your familiar zone, you will be able to look at all of your options objectively, and may even discover more passions.
We don’t know how we want to be treated
This one may sound silly to you. But really, why do we put up with people who may treat us badly, or who aren’t our ideal match? It’s not because we like the bad boys or girls. It’s because we haven’t spent the time reflecting on ourselves and who we really want to be with. Trial and error may teach you what you want in a partner, but knowing yourself helps you realize that even faster.
- Practice meditation.
- Start weight lifting.
- Take a kickboxing class.
Why should we do these things? When we feel strong mentally, emotionally, and physically, we are less likely to succumb to feelings of weakness in the face of tough decisions and situations. This way, we know we are strong. We know we should be treated with respect and love.
We compromise too easily
A relationship should work two ways. One person shouldn’t claim to follow the other wherever they may go, if the other won’t reciprocate. Compromise is important. However, that means finding a solution that works for both. It’s important to make sure you’re living your own life, even when you’re in the relationship. If you’re scared to take a trip abroad or doing a trip of a lifetime because of the possibility of a relationship ending, take some time to think and talk it over. The strongest relationships can withstand distance. And the strongest partners encourage each other to live their dreams.
If it’s meant to be, it will be. I promise.
Do you believe traveling can help your relationships? Do you have an experience where you chose traveling over your relationship? Leave a comment!